Archive - February 2010

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THE HOME STUDY BEGINS
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Our next step
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Questioning our Agency…
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Can I overuse the word blessing?
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Wrangling the Paperwork
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A Road Home?

THE HOME STUDY BEGINS

Humor me for a moment.  (Those of you who have met with social workers can skip this part.) Close your eyes and conjure up your best visual image of a social worker.

I’ll share mine to help you out: Early fifties, clip-board in hand, granny glasses (so that she can peer over them and scrutinize you), kinda tough, kinda judgmental, kinda hard to work with…. the list goes on.

I hate to say that this is what I was expecting as I lugged my two kids through the blowing snow and sat down to wait in the lobby of Catholic Charities earlier this afternoon… that, or maybe a nun.  Calvin was running a few minutes behind so I went in before him to make sure we kept our appointment time.  After sitting for five minutes or so, breathing in the very 1950’s smelling air, our social worker came out to meet us.  Surprise!  She did not exactly fit the profile I had made up in my head.  She was quite stylish, young, and very positive and energetic.  Calvin and I spent a full hour and a half with her as she explained the process, asked personal questions and talked over our two children who were joyfully ransacking the toy chest in her borrowed office.

Now at home, questions answered and huge stack of paper in hand, I wonder why I ever feared the social worker.  They are only there to help us bring home our child.  Our goals align.  Now if I can only get excited about all the papers I have to hunt down and fill out.

Our next step

Taking a time-out is very difficult for me.  I’m a take the ball and run kind of girl.  However, when you’re consulting God sometimes he requires a time-out; on your part that is.  We are looking for a new agency and I really just want to jump on the first good reference that comes our way.  CWA had good references, you see where that got us.  Although we prayed over our decision to adopt and felt deep conviction that it was a definite for our family we did not give the choosing of our agency enough prayer.  In fact, I will admit to some general reluctance when we entered into business with them.   But they have a great Ethiopia program right?  So of course that was the place for us!  Hopefully this time we will be guided by the spirit rather than word of mouth.

Home Study starts next week with Catholic Charities. I will update you on how it goes, what’s involved etc.

Questioning our Agency…

As many of you know we have chosen CWA, Christian World Adoption, to facilitate our adoption process.  Sadly, a news story was aired last night on CBS that told the story of three Ethiopian girls who say they were sold into adoption.  For the whole story go here: http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2010/02/15/cbsnews_investigates/main6210911.shtml?tag=cbsContent;cbsCarousel

Do we know if this is true? Of course we don’t.  CWA has issued statements denying the allegations and has launched a full-scale investigation of their Ethiopia adoption program.  Initially I was very angry as I sat and watched CBS news.  Now I am sad and a little scared that something will happen to prevent us from bringing a child home.  Most likely we will sever ties with CWA and seek another agency to work with.  However, there is still a large and looming question of whether or not we will be matched with a child who has been placed for adoption under false pretenses. It seems that this may be growing problem in Ethiopia.  Our intention in this adoption is to bring home a true orphan, fatherless, homeless or abandoned.  It is unethical to take a child from his home for money or other reasons.  Working with an agency who has the same goals, and really practices what they preach, is the only way to accomplish this.

I believe that if we can just take this out of our hands, do away with the thought that this is something that we are accomplishing and let God handle the details we will be much better off!  I know there is a child waiting, and created, to join our family and I’m trusting that the day will come when we are together.  So please continue to journey with us as we seek a new agency and continue our search for our child.  We begin the homestudy process next week with Catholic Charities so our pace should not be drastically altered.  I’m looking forward to moving forward. (=

Statement from CWA:

http://www.youtube.com/user/ChristianWorldAdopt

Can I overuse the word blessing?

Just wondering, because I’m about to use it again.  Just like I overuse commas.  So… on to the blessing.  Last night Calvin and I met with our Pastor of Volunteers/Adoption.  I know what you’re thinking, who has a Pastor of Volunteers??  Long Hollow Baptist Church ladies and gentlemen.  Pretty awesome.  Any way, we met with Rob and it was so reassuring to find out that our church offers us some pretty amazing services when it comes to adoption.  They have access to a lot of information that will be abundantly helpful as we are preparing to welcome our next child.  They will help us go through all of our paperwork with a fine tooth comb, so as to ensure we don’t get stuck in Ethiopia or some other potential disaster.  And on top of those wonderful things they have paired us with a family who has completed an international adoption… mentors!  My anxieties are eased.  However, if you know me very well you would say “what anxieties?”  True, true.  I tend to leap before looking.  Perhaps a little anxiety is a good thing.  If we don’t prepare for potential problems we won’t know how to handle them when the inevitably arise.   So thank you Lord for Long Hollow and their commitment to adoption.  Thank you for your provisions!

Side Note: Rob gave me a bracelet (live strong style) that reads: “Share the Joy of Adoption”  and I snatched it out of his hand like a two-year-old and slid it onto my wrist all the while admiring it like it was encrusted with diamonds.  Yes, I would say I’m in the romantic stage.

Wrangling the Paperwork

This week I’m starting an adoption notebook.  Anyone with kids… well let me take that back… anyone, no matter who you are ,has the potential to lose just about anything and everything.  I can’t count the number of times I have left a piece of paper or a bill on the counter only to find that is has mysteriously relocated itself in a matter of mere seconds.  Therefore, the notebook, a place to file and keep everything together until the blessed moment it all leaves my house in a giant manilla envelope.

The things I need to gather, get and send out for this week:

  1. 2 fire extinguishers (should already have them, need them for homestudy)
  2. Certified copies of our birth certificates
  3. Certified copy of marriage license
  4. Photographs of the fam. and the house

So that’s my list for this week.  Trying to spread it out so as not to become completely overwhelmed and or crazy, whichever comes first.

I also want to thank everyone for their amazing support as we have shared this news.  It is so incredible to know that we will have friends and family praying and holding our hands through this lengthy and somewhat scary process.  You are all appreciated and loved.

A Road Home?

We are expanding in size again! (Our family that is.)  We have begun the process to adopt a child from Ethiopia.  This blog is intended to be a way to share our experience with you and to promote the cause of orphans all over the world.  Would you like some details?  Please read on, I’ll be glad to share.

Why Adopt?

We are so honored that God has placed this particular calling on our lives.  The need is so great and we have room in our hearts, and our home for that matter, to welcome a third child into our family.  It is flat out amazing to be part of a plan that will change the course of our child’s life.

As Christians we believe that it is the job of the church to care for orphans.  Wouldn’t it be amazing if the church actually took on the task of ending the global orphan epidemic?  In Ethiopia one out of every six children will die before their fifth birthday.  If we can make even a tiny dent in that statistic we will.

Why now?

Yes, our kids are young.  7 1/2 months and 2 1/2 years old.  We had our first two close together and we thought that was a good pattern to continue.  We will most likely travel to get our son in ten months to a year and a half from now.  We want our kids to grow up together, be close in age, to never know life without each other.

Is this going to cost a lot?

Yes.  Yes it is.  We are a middle class family, living on one income until I start teaching at the start of the next school year.  However, we are finding ways to cut back and save.  I coupon like crazy and we don’t eat out. (unless we have a great coupon!) Living on less is worth being able to bring our son home. The number is shaping up to be around $20,000 when all is said and done. We will also be fund-raising and accepting tax-deductible donations.  You can get more information about this by emailing me at erica.mho@gmail.com  and staying tuned to this blog for future fund-raising opportunities.

Above all we covet your prayers during this time of waiting and filling out endless amounts of paper work.  International adoption is crazy, but our God is Bigger than crazy and he gave us this assignment… therefore we do not fear.

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