Archive - September 2012

Photography Fundraiser
Why are we Adopting Again?
Liam’s Birthday: The Celebration
We all have a choice to make
Happy First Birthday, Liam!

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Why are we Adopting Again?

Didn’t you just complete an adoption? Why are you starting again so soon?

We seem to be getting this question a lot lately. Or hearing that people are asking our friends/family this question. I guess I find it a little odd that anyone would question someone’s motives when they are adding to their family. Especially when the addition to that family currently has no family.

BUT, I know my brain is hard-wired a little differently than other folks so I will explain a few things to help you (them) out a little bit. So here is our list of whys and motivations:

1. We have room.

2. We will love her unconditionally and fully for all she is and will be.

3. God loves us and has given us the capacity to build our family in a non-traditional way.

4. We desire for our children to be close in age. We feel that this will provide them with a strong support system as they go through school, life etc.

5. Our daughter is waiting and we will not leave her as an orphan.

Number five is pretty important, but f I can sum up everything in one small statement, the answer to the “why” question is Why not? Why not fund raise again, why not expand our family, why not live out the gospel in our home? When you can’t come up with any good answers for why not then you are simply compelled to stop asking why and start doing what God has asked of you.

I can’t sit here and tell you this is easy. Raising kids is hard if you are really trying to do a good job. Our youngest son doesn’t sleep at night, our older two are stubborn as mules and we are often exhausted. We are adopting a preschool aged child who will have multiple special needs and I can’t even imagine what that will add to daily routine. But I do know that there will be joy. Just as there is joy to be found in the everyday madness of the three we have now. Joy is all over raising children. When I sit and reflect on the day it’s easy to focus on the one tantrum or the one battle, but there are so many good things in a day as well. Goodbye kisses in the morning, brushing my daughter’s hair, reading in the evenings and hearing my kids say “mommy I want YOU, I want you, sit with me, guess what I did today.” When Liam cries in the night it’s because he wants US, his parents. What greater joy can be found that being wanted? My son has claimed us as his parents in every way and he cries out because he knows we will answer.

In the same way our daughter cries out for us, across the sea. She does not know it yet, but we are answering and someday after much work she too will claim us as her parents.

And we have already said yes to her.

Liam’s Birthday: The Celebration

We are in the midst of moving so we did not have a decent place to do the whole family cake and ice cream thing. However, we DO have friends that work for Gaylord Opryland. And those friends were kind enough to help us get a beautiful room for the night. We told the kids we were going on “vacation” and they were totally pumped. My mom and sister and niece had also come to visit and came along for the ride. We had such a good time playing, swimming and celebrating Liam in the beautiful Gaylord Opryland hotel.

We all have a choice to make

Let me be honest. At about 9pm last night I had a very different blog post in mind. It wasn’t going to be about choices, or grace or anything good really. It was going to be a venting, ranting, angry momma of 3 who has been trying to move her family for some time now. Oh. And I was also going to cast blame and think about how I could stealthily let our buyers know how much I dislike what they have put us through. Mind you, these were just late night thoughts after being told that we would have to do an addendum and extend our closing date for the fourth time. But that doesn’t change the fact that I was hard core thinking them. Seriously, I actually thought about leaving a note on the counter that said “Welcome to your new home, thanks for making our last month in our home suck, hope you make many happy memories here.” Wow. Like really Wow.

Friends I am a s-i-n-n-e-r. To the bone. One saved by grace, but a sinner nonetheless. And man that sin nature can be a beast. She almost had me convinced that being a total jerk and wallowing in self pity, oh the horror, I’ve packed up my house and I have three kids, and now we can’t move and now we will all surely die from this catastrophic life changing event, was the way to go. I mean how else would one react when life seems upside down?

How about with that all encompassing, wonderful word GRACE.  It’s a choice. You choose to let your bitter flag fly or you pull yourself up pray for peace and realize that there are way bigger things going on in this world that need your attention. I admit, my bitter flag got to half mast before I yanked that sucker down. But late is better than never when you choose Joy.

There is a phrase that says “What spills over when you are bumped is what you are filled with.” And Proverbs 15:13 says “A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.”

This long crazy move is not yet complete and there are lots of things I could share that would probably make you feel sorry for our family right now, but there is nothing good that would be accomplished in that. I’m going to work on filling my heart with good stuff, so don’t be afraid to ask me how it’s going, I won’t take 20 minutes of your life telling you how miserable we are, rather I’ll tell you how this is all part of the refining process, and for that I am joyful.

How are you today?

Happy First Birthday, Liam!

Wow. The first birthday is here already. It came so fast! But that’s what happens with adoption. You miss some of your sweet ones life and you just have to make it count with the time you are given! Sometimes I try to imagine a little newborn Liam Alula. What he may have looked like, sounded like, smelled like.

I don’t know. Can’t even guess. We truly know nothing about his little past.

What I do know, is that even though I didn’t hold him and protect him from birth I loved him from birth. While Liam was coming into this world, across the ocean, we were having a yard sale to raise money to bring home our yet to be known son. I was crying because I had not yet seen his face and I was loving him fiercely. He has been loved and sought after for every second of his little existence.

Four months later we received the call we were waiting for. This little face confirmed everything.

Several, several months later our 7 1/2 month old came home forever and life has been filled with good stuff. Here is a little taste of what we have been up to recently!

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