It’s the Saturday after Thanksgiving and many are driving the long hours home on crowded highways. Isn’t it funny how much shorter the drive home seems? On the way to our destination we are full of anticipation or maybe even anxiety. The thoughts over what is to come makes the minutes and hours drag on as we wait to see what this visit will hold.
Maybe today, on your way home, you are scrolling through Facebook or Instagram. Each swipe displays photos of smiling families digging into turkey and stuffing or sisters in matching shirts announcing their Black Friday plans. But what you don’t see in those pictures is the intense fight that just took place over something that happened three years ago or the deep grief for the loved one who isn’t sitting at the table this year.
When families gather… conflict calls. I’m almost 100% certain that every family, no matter how good-looking, suffers from this ailment. Our hearts are bent toward conflict, sin and strife. We are ungrateful for how our lives have turned out, even in the midst of prosperity and plenty. When our families draw close so does the destroyer. It’s no secret that satan wants our families. And the holidays are the prime time for him to prey upon our festive yet distracted minds. I believe he also uses the happy images displayed by others to make us believe the lie that we aren’t all broken. The resulting pursuit of false perfection rather than the pursuit of our perfect savior takes our minds and hearts captive.
Consider Romans 1:21 as a cautionary tale…. in fact take a moment to read the entire chapter.
Romans 1:21 For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened.
The season of togetherness has begun. Let us lead our families to focus first and centrally on the advent during this time. The trimmings, shine and good times come second. All of those things and the expectations that lead up to them will fall flat and leave us disappointed because we were made to honor and give thanks to the one who will never disappoint us.
I can only imagine that our hearts will burst forth with light rather than darkness as we gather in pursuit of Jesus rather than the ideal standard we have created for family gatherings and holiday outings.