Today, December 16th is the anniversary of “the call.” The first time we heard the name Alula, and saw Liam Alula’s face for the first time. We were shocked because to our knowledge there were no new children in his transitional orphanage in Ethiopia AND he was 3 1/2 months old. We had already sold and given away all the baby stuff as our parameters allowed us to adopt a child a bit older than an itty-bitty like Mr. Liam Alula. Here’s a little recap of that day if you are interested.  I still remember picking up the phone, seeing the Oregon area code, and thinking no-way, I’m not even going to get excited, this can’t be it, I mean I know I prayed for a referral before Christmas… but God are you really going to answer a prayer the way I want it answered? Well, He did. And we have our amazing, now 15-month-old little Liam Alula. Liam has now been home almost 9 months and things have been all over the place as far as adjustment, bonding and attachment goes. I mean… he’s attached, but doesn’t really want momma out of his site. Which is normal for him in two categories, both the adoption category and the I’m a 15-month-old category. We don’t look at EVERYTHING through the adoption lens, but we’ve found if we put that down entirely we find ourselves becoming perplexed with his actions at times. Oh yeah… he’s experienced early trauma… that might explain XYZ. Yes, I realize he was 7 1/2 months old when he came home to us forever, but I know with all my heart that while he may not remember his life before us it does and will always impact him on a deeper level than we will ever know. However, he is one happy dude and I’m happy about that. So happy Refferalversary to us!

Referral Liam

Referral Photo




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Erica is an advocate for simplicity, family time, making a cozy home and loving others well. She is the community coordinator for One Orphan, the orphan care ministry of America World Adoption Association. Erica and Calvin have four young children; Elliott, Charlotte, Lola and Liam. They currently reside in Nashville, TN.

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