So… how was Lola’s first day of school?

In a word. Terrible. In two words? Really awful.

Lola isn’t ready for school. We’ve been home for almost two months. My desire would be to keep her in the attachment bubble a bit longer before trying school. However, she really needs vision services and ESL. She also desperately needs peer models. I also work full time. Just typing that makes me want to scream.

It’s just hard right now. Everything is hard. And please, before you think it, we are not “regretting” anything. We are not worried that God led us down a path that leads to destruction. We know we have found our daughter. Plain and simple. And now we are doing our best to love her and get her on the right track. It’s not an easy thing. But the best and most meaningful things are NOT easy. God calls us in the deepest, hardest situations. And within the pit we see his face. That’s where God lives ya’ll. In the pit. With us.

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Erica is an advocate for simplicity, family time, making a cozy home and loving others well. She is the community coordinator for One Orphan, the orphan care ministry of America World Adoption Association. Erica and Calvin have four young children; Elliott, Charlotte, Lola and Liam. They currently reside in Nashville, TN.


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  • Praying for you guys, and praising God that Lola has a forever family to walk alongside her and love her while she’s adjusting to everything being new. Praying that your story gives courage and hope to those who are considering adoption and need to know that God will carry them through every last hurdle.

  • It’s going to be hard but you knew that going into this. I know God will guide you and be with you every step of the way. We are praying for all of you . I am so happy for all of you because once she understands and can speak our language I am sure she will blossom in to the beautiful flower you see in her. God planted her right where he wants her. Hang in there. We love you.

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