The things we can control…

There are things about this process that have been exciting and others that have seemingly sucked time from our very hands. Paperwork being the number one sucker. However, with the recent elimination of the paper chase I find myself mourning the release of control. You see, we were able to complete our paperwork in a fairly expedient manner. I was quite on top of things, making the dossier a priority in our daily life. I made sure it went smoothly and double checked for accuracy like a pro. Now that it is complete, others will determine how quickly we move through the remainder of the adoption process. It is a time for waiting. A waiting like one we have never experienced. Pregnancy is a different kind of waiting because you are still somewhat in control. You eat right, you talk to your round belly and you do the unspeakable… cut your caffeine intake. Who knows if any of these things do wonders for our little beans, but we cling to the notion that our kids reap the benefits and will be ten times smarter due to our faithful prenatal vitamin taking. As we wait for our third child, our son, Liam… I can’t be there to impose my nutritional standards or be sure that he has enough eye contact in the first days of life. And there lies the difference…
Obviously we’ve surrendered this process to the Lord. But it’s still, as I said, a different kind of waiting. One that takes patience and preparation. Preparing for sweet Liam who is already ours in our hearts but who will need time and a lot of help to get used to being ours. The one thing that mirrors bring pregnant with a child is the way we are so in love already, the way we imagine our lives with him in it, holding him for the first time, imagining who he will become and dreaming big dreams for his future. Those things don’t change, but of course we can’t control that either. (=

About the author


Erica is an advocate for simplicity, family time, making a cozy home and loving others well. She is the community coordinator for One Orphan, the orphan care ministry of America World Adoption Association. Erica and Calvin have four young children; Elliott, Charlotte, Lola and Liam. They currently reside in Nashville, TN.


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  • Praying you get him soon! He has a lot to look forward to and doesn’t even know it! What precious people you are for saving Liam from the poverty and disease he would otherwise know. Most importantly, I know you will teach him about the Lord. We can’t wait to meet him!

  • Your love for Liam (love it!) is so evident in your posts and all that you all have done up to this point in the process and will continue to do. You are being a mommy to him – and a wonderful one at that. Praying for you as you wait to see his beautiful face and hold him as your very own. Love you all!

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