We all have a choice to make

Let me be honest. At about 9pm last night I had a very different blog post in mind. It wasn’t going to be about choices, or grace or anything good really. It was going to be a venting, ranting, angry momma of 3 who has been trying to move her family for some time now. Oh. And I was also going to cast blame and think about how I could stealthily let our buyers know how much I dislike what they have put us through. Mind you, these were just late night thoughts after being told that we would have to do an addendum and extend our closing date for the fourth time. But that doesn’t change the fact that I was hard core thinking them. Seriously, I actually thought about leaving a note on the counter that said “Welcome to your new home, thanks for making our last month in our home suck, hope you make many happy memories here.” Wow. Like really Wow.

Friends I am a s-i-n-n-e-r. To the bone. One saved by grace, but a sinner nonetheless. And man that sin nature can be a beast. She almost had me convinced that being a total jerk and wallowing in self pity, oh the horror, I’ve packed up my house and I have three kids, and now we can’t move and now we will all surely die from this catastrophic life changing event, was the way to go. I mean how else would one react when life seems upside down?

How about with that all encompassing, wonderful word GRACE.  It’s a choice. You choose to let your bitter flag fly or you pull yourself up pray for peace and realize that there are way bigger things going on in this world that need your attention. I admit, my bitter flag got to half mast before I yanked that sucker down. But late is better than never when you choose Joy.

There is a phrase that says “What spills over when you are bumped is what you are filled with.” And Proverbs 15:13 says “A glad heart makes a cheerful face, but by sorrow of heart the spirit is crushed.”

This long crazy move is not yet complete and there are lots of things I could share that would probably make you feel sorry for our family right now, but there is nothing good that would be accomplished in that. I’m going to work on filling my heart with good stuff, so don’t be afraid to ask me how it’s going, I won’t take 20 minutes of your life telling you how miserable we are, rather I’ll tell you how this is all part of the refining process, and for that I am joyful.

How are you today?

About the author


Erica is an advocate for simplicity, family time, making a cozy home and loving others well. She is the community coordinator for One Orphan, the orphan care ministry of America World Adoption Association. Erica and Calvin have four young children; Elliott, Charlotte, Lola and Liam. They currently reside in Nashville, TN.


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